When a relationship ends, the memories and emotional ties don’t always fade as quickly as you’d like. You might find yourself thinking about your ex long after you’ve decided to move on, replaying conversations, revisiting old wounds, or feeling stuck in the past. The Spell Forget Ex is a sacred ritual designed to help you release those lingering attachments, cut the energetic cords that bind you, and create space for healing, clarity, and new love to enter your life.
This spell isn’t about erasing the lessons you’ve learned or denying the reality of what happened. It’s about transforming pain into power, reclaiming your energy, and giving yourself permission to let go. Whether your breakup was recent or years ago, this ritual can help you finally close that chapter and step into a brighter future.
What Is the Spell Forget Ex?
The Spell Forget Ex is a modern witchcraft ritual that combines the ancient practices of candle magic, cord cutting, and intentional release. At its core, this spell works by severing the invisible energetic cords that connect you to your former partner—threads of emotion, memory, and attachment that can persist long after the relationship has ended.
These etheric cords are real. When you’re in a relationship, you exchange energy with your partner constantly. Even after the breakup, those energetic ties can keep you bound, making it difficult to forget, forgive, or move forward. This spell uses fire, symbolic objects, and powerful affirmations to break those bonds and return your energy to you.
The beauty of this spell is its flexibility. You can adapt it to suit your specific situation, whether you’re healing from a toxic relationship, releasing unrequited love, or simply ready to stop thinking about someone who no longer serves your highest good. The ritual honors your pain while empowering you to take control of your healing journey.
When to Cast This Spell
Timing is everything in spellwork, and the Spell Forget Ex is no exception. The most potent time to cast this ritual is during the waning moon or new moon, when the lunar energy naturally supports release, banishment, and new beginnings. The waning moon phase helps you let go of what no longer serves you, while the new moon invites fresh starts and clean slates.
You should cast this spell when you feel ready—not when others tell you it’s time to move on, but when you genuinely desire freedom from the memories and emotions that weigh you down. Signs you’re ready include:
- You find yourself constantly thinking about your ex, even when you don’t want to
- You feel drained, stuck, or unable to open your heart to new possibilities
- You’ve tried other methods of healing and still feel energetically tied to the past
- You’re experiencing physical symptoms of heartbreak like insomnia, anxiety, or fatigue
- You know the relationship is over, but your emotions haven’t caught up with your mind
Before you begin, take time to meditate on your true intentions. This spell works best when your desire for release comes from a place of self-love rather than anger or revenge. Make sure you’re casting this spell for yourself, not to harm or manipulate your ex.
Materials You Will Need
Gathering your materials is a sacred part of the spell preparation. Each item holds symbolic meaning and contributes to the ritual’s power. Here’s what you’ll need:
- Black candle: Represents banishment, protection, and the absorption of negative energy. This candle helps you release what no longer serves you.
- White candle (optional second candle): Symbolizes purity, peace, and spiritual cleansing. It represents your fresh start and renewed energy.
- Red cloth or small bag: Red is the color of passion and transformation. You’ll use this to contain the spell remnants and bury them away from your home.
- Photograph of your ex (optional but powerful): A visual representation of the person you’re releasing. If you don’t have a photo, you can write their full name on paper instead.
- Fireproof bowl or cauldron: A safe container for burning materials. Fill it with water or sand for extra safety.
- Coarse salt or sea salt: Salt is a powerful cleanser and neutralizer. It absorbs negative energy and purifies your space.
- Pen and paper: For writing down your feelings, your ex’s name, or affirmations. Use black or red ink for banishment work.
- Matches or lighter: Fire is the transformative element that releases your intentions into the universe.
You may also want to include optional items like protective herbs (rosemary, sage, or rue), essential oils (lavender for peace, eucalyptus for clarity), or a piece of obsidian or black tourmaline to absorb residual negative energy.
Best Moon Phase & Timing
The Spell Forget Ex draws its greatest power from the waning moon and new moon phases. During the waning moon—the period between the full moon and new moon—the lunar energy supports release, letting go, and banishment. This is the perfect time to cut cords and release attachments.
The new moon, which marks the beginning of a new lunar cycle, is ideal for fresh starts and setting intentions for the future. Casting this spell during the new moon allows you to release the old and immediately welcome new energy into your life.
If possible, perform this ritual on a Saturday (ruled by Saturn, the planet of endings and karmic lessons) or during the dark of the moon—the three days before the new moon, when the sky is darkest and the veil between worlds is thinnest.
Choose a time when you won’t be interrupted. Evening or nighttime is traditional for banishment work, but honor your own intuition. Some witches prefer to cast this spell at dawn, symbolizing the sunrise of a new chapter in their lives.
Step-by-Step Ritual Instructions
Now that you’ve gathered your materials and chosen your timing, you’re ready to perform the ritual. Move through these steps with intention, focus, and an open heart.
- Prepare your sacred space. Cleanse your area by burning sage, palo santo, or incense. Open a window to allow stagnant energy to leave. Cast a protective circle if that’s part of your practice, or simply set the intention that this space is safe and sacred.
- Ground and center yourself. Sit comfortably and take several deep breaths. Place your hands on your heart and feel your own energy. Visualize roots growing from your body into the earth, anchoring you. Say aloud or silently: “I am safe. I am ready. I release what no longer serves me.”
- Write down your feelings. On a piece of paper, write your ex’s full name. Beneath it, write everything you want to release: the memories, the pain, the attachment, the lingering hope. Be honest and detailed. This is your chance to name what you’re letting go of.
- Anoint and light your candle. If you’re using oil, dress your black candle by rubbing oil from the center outward (for banishment). Light the candle and say: “This flame burns away all ties that bind me. I reclaim my power, my peace, and my freedom.”
- Burn the paper. Hold the edge of the paper with your ex’s name in the candle flame until it catches fire. Drop it into your fireproof bowl. As it burns, visualize the energetic cords between you dissolving into smoke. Feel the weight lifting from your chest. Say: “As this paper burns to ash, so too does my attachment. I release you completely.”
- Add salt to the ashes. When the paper has burned completely, sprinkle coarse salt over the ashes. Salt neutralizes and purifies. Stir the mixture clockwise three times, then say: “With this salt, I cleanse my heart. With this salt, I seal my release. What is done is done. I am free.”
- Wrap and dispose of the remnants. Carefully place the ashes and salt into your red cloth or bag. Tie it closed. Take this bundle far from your home—ideally to a crossroads, a river, or a place you’ll never return to—and bury it or throw it into moving water. As you do, turn your back and walk away without looking back.
- Cleanse yourself. Return home and take a ritual bath or shower. Add salt, lavender, or rosemary to the water. As you wash, visualize any remaining attachment washing away down the drain. Imagine yourself surrounded by white or golden light, whole and complete.
- Close the spell. Allow your candle to burn completely if it’s safe to do so, or snuff it out and relight it each evening until it’s gone. Each time you light it, reaffirm your intention: “I am released. I am free. I am ready for what comes next.”
- Honor your healing. In the days following the spell, be gentle with yourself. Drink plenty of water, rest, and journal about any emotions that arise. Trust that the spell is working, even if you don’t feel immediate results.
Affirmations & Incantation
Words carry power, and the right affirmation can amplify your spell’s effectiveness. As you perform the ritual, you can use the incantations provided in the steps above, or create your own. Here are additional affirmations to speak aloud during or after the spell:
“I release you from my heart and from my mind. I take back all the energy that was mine. The past is finished. The cords are cut. I walk forward in peace, and I close this door shut.”
“Leave my heart and leave me free. Leave my life, no pain for me. As this candle burns to dust, I move forward now, move on I must.”
“I honor what was, but I release what is no longer. I am whole without you. I am enough without you. I am free.”
Repeat these affirmations as many times as feels right. You can also write them on a separate piece of paper and keep them on your altar or under your pillow to reinforce the spell’s energy while you sleep.
How to Close the Spell
Closing your spell properly is just as important as casting it. After you’ve completed all the ritual steps, take a moment to thank any deities, ancestors, or spiritual guides you may have called upon for assistance. If you cast a circle, open it now by walking counterclockwise and releasing the energy.
Snuff out your candle (never blow it out, as this scatters the energy). If you’re allowing it to burn down over several nights, keep it in a safe place and relight it with intention each evening.
Ground yourself once more by eating something nourishing or placing your hands on the earth. This helps you return to your physical body and prevents post-ritual fatigue.
Finally, make a commitment to yourself: you will not reach out to your ex, check their social media, or reopen the door you’ve just closed. Honor the spell by honoring yourself.
Signs the Spell Is Working
After casting the Spell Forget Ex, you may notice shifts in your thoughts, emotions, and energy. Here are common signs that the spell is taking effect:
- You think about your ex less frequently, or the thoughts feel less emotionally charged
- You feel a sense of lightness, relief, or peace that wasn’t there before
- You stop checking their social media or wondering what they’re doing
- You have dreams about closure, endings, or new beginnings
- You feel more interested in your own life, hobbies, and future
- Synchronicities appear—meaningful coincidences that guide you forward
- You attract new people, opportunities, or experiences into your life
Remember, healing isn’t always linear. You may have good days and harder days, but the overall trajectory should be one of release and renewal. Be patient with yourself and trust the process.
Safety, Ethics & Consent
This spell is designed for personal healing and energetic release—it is not meant to harm, manipulate, or control your ex. Ethical witchcraft honors free will and respects the autonomy of others. You are cutting cords and releasing your attachment, not cursing or binding another person.
Before casting, ask yourself: “Am I doing this for my own healing, or to hurt someone else?” If your intention is rooted in revenge or anger, take time to process those emotions before proceeding. Spells cast from a place of bitterness can backfire or create karmic consequences.
Safety is also important. Always use a fireproof bowl when burning materials, and never leave candles unattended. If you have asthma or sensitivities, be cautious with smoke and incense. If you’re dealing with a dangerous or abusive ex, prioritize your physical safety first—magic is a tool for empowerment, but it’s not a substitute for legal protection or professional support.
Finally, remember that this spell works in partnership with your own actions. Magic amplifies intention, but you must also do the inner work: therapy, journaling, setting boundaries, and making choices that support your healing.
Common Variations of the Spell Forget Ex
Every witch’s practice is unique, and you can adapt this spell to fit your personal style and circumstances. Here are some popular variations:
Cord Cutting with String
Instead of burning a photo, use a length of string or twine. Tie one end to a slip of paper with your name and the other to a slip with your ex’s name. Hold the string taut and carefully burn through the center with your candle flame, then drop both halves into water. This physically represents the severing of your connection.
Tea Ritual for Emotional Release
Brew a cup of mint or chamomile tea on a full moon night. As you drink it, visualize the warmth of the tea soothing your heart and washing away the pain. Say: “This tea cleanses me. This tea heals me. I drink in peace and release the past.” Pour any remaining tea onto the earth as an offering.
Freezer Spell to Stop Obsessive Thoughts
Write your ex’s name on a small piece of paper. Place it in a jar of water with a pinch of salt. Seal the jar and put it in the back of your freezer. Say: “Your hold on me is frozen. Your power over me is gone. I release you to your own path.” Leave the jar frozen until you no longer think of them.
Mirror Spell for Self-Reflection
Perform this spell in front of a mirror. Light a white candle and gaze at your own reflection. Speak aloud: “I see myself clearly now. I am not defined by who loved me or who left me. I am whole. I am free.” Blow out the candle and carry the mirror energy with you.
Rose Quartz for Healing the Heart Chakra
After completing the release ritual, place a piece of rose quartz over your heart chakra. Lie down and breathe deeply for 10-15 minutes. Visualize pink or green light filling your chest, healing the wounds left by the relationship. Rose quartz helps you forgive yourself and open to love again.
FAQ
How long does the Spell Forget Ex take to work?
The Spell Forget Ex can begin working immediately, but full results often unfold over days or weeks. Some people feel relief within 24 hours, while others notice gradual shifts over the course of a lunar cycle. The speed depends on the depth of your attachment, your willingness to release, and how much inner work you’re doing alongside the spell.
Can I cast this spell if my ex is still in my life?
Yes, you can. This spell focuses on releasing your emotional and energetic attachment, not physically removing the person from your life. It’s especially helpful if you share children, work together, or have mutual friends and need to maintain a civil relationship while letting go of romantic feelings.
What if I start thinking about my ex again after casting the spell?
It’s normal for old patterns to resurface occasionally, especially if you’ve been together a long time. If intrusive thoughts return, repeat a simple affirmation like “I have already released you” or light a white candle and reaffirm your intention. You can also repeat the full spell during the next waning moon for reinforcement.
Is this spell reversible if I change my mind?
Once you’ve cut energetic cords and released the attachment, the spell is complete. While you can’t undo the energetic work, you can always choose to reconnect with someone on a conscious level if circumstances change. However, most people who cast this spell find they no longer desire the connection once they’ve truly let go.
